Toxic parenting is when a person who intimidates and threatens their children and makes them feel inferior is called a toxic parent.
No matter what parents are, they do not raise their children to be bullies or to be destroyed. Parents want their children to be better. In that process, they make some mistakes, knowingly or unknowingly.
Mistakes made with pride make them negative.
First of all, parents are afraid. They have to put their children on the right path; otherwise, they will go astray, and they will not be under control. They have to be conditioned and disciplined; otherwise, they will go on the wrong path. Parents are afraid.
First of all, parents should remove that thought that my children are bad and I should do good to them.
Otherwise, they will go down a bad path. No child wants to be spoiled. No matter how many students there are in a school, everyone wants to get first rank.
Many people think that children will become bad if their parents don’t care, but that’s wrong.
Children show a level of performance in studies or in games and songs. But parents create a benchmark by saying that you should do more than this, perform more. You must definitely reach that benchmark. Parents and society say that you must work hard, work hard. They work hard and try to reach that benchmark. But when they cannot reach it, they choose other ways.
When children do not reach the benchmark, parents blame them. This increases their sense of insecurity. For example, an elephant is tied to a rope from its childhood. It tries but cannot break the rope and remains there. The elephant becomes helpless.
Similarly, we will seat the students in three rows, ABC, and give them a task. The task will be easy for the students in the A and B rows. They will be able to do it easily. But for the students in the C row, we will give a difficult task that is not like anyone else’s. Similarly, we will give two rounds of tasks. Easy for the A and B students and difficult for the C students.
Now in the last round, we will also give an easy task to the C students. But they will not be able to do that task because they are fixed and this task is not ours.Thus, they fall into learned helplessness. It is easy to do physical work but difficult to work with the mind. Blaming children has conditioned their minds that way.
When children are three years old, we say, “Call me Mom.” Now, we blame them for not calling us. When we give them big tasks and ask them to do them, they feel helpless when they can’t do them.
On the other hand, when we give them small tasks and tell them, “It’s okay now, you can do it later,” they are more likely to succeed.Toxic parenting is a very big subject, we will talk about it in detail later.
When they are given big tasks and are unable to complete them, they try to escape from their parents.
Let’s talk more about Toxic parenting later. Toxic parenting is a very big subject, we will talk about it in detail later.
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