We tend to measure children based on our mood. We measure their character and personality based on our mood.
When we are happy, we don’t say anything even if the children make a mistake. When we are angry, we react excessively even if they make a small mistake. Children are very sharp. They observe everything. Children understand your dramas. If they understand, you will lose their respect.
Do not hit children. Absolutely do not hit grown-up children.
Parents worry that children will develop bad habits. Children develop bad habits when they don’t have respect for you. People say that children with bad habits become that way because of their peers, but that is only one factor.
But when children have respect for their parents, they don’t learn bad habits easily. If there is no respect for parents, children are exposed to society more quickly.
If your children are emotionally, culturally, and intellectually connected to you, wherever they go, they will see their original self reflected in you.My mother and father became intellectually, culturally, and emotionally distant from each other. At that time, the influence of the society they were exposed to became strong.
Over-motivating children, restricting them excessively, and forcing them to study constantly leads to them becoming disconnected. They stay at home, eat, and study, but they are disconnected. They fall under the influence of their peer group and learn bad habits.
What we need to understand here is, don’t belittle yourselves in front of your children. Many parents fight in front of their children. It’s difficult to be completely perfect because husbands and wives are usually enemies, aren’t they? You can fight when the children are not around.
If husbands and wives respect each other’s opinions, there will be less chance of arguments. For example, the wife likes Pawan Kalyan, and the husband likes Mahesh Babu. If they respect each other’s opinions, there will be less scope for arguments.
A teenage girl falls in love with a classmate. Then the parents try to disconnect the girl from him by telling her that he is trapping her, and so on. But the girl believes that her parents are the villains and the boy is the hero.
A girl is very fond of a boy. The parents found out about it. The parents are torturing her a lot. When the parents consulted a psychologist, he said that if you torture her, there is a possibility that they will meet secretly. If you want to know what teenagers are doing, they need to have the confidence that even if their parents find out, they won’t overreact.
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Some people talk to their children, saying things like, “This person is good for you; that person is good for you.”
Children should be given sex education, but they shouldn’t be told to find a sexual partner. They can figure it out themselves. That’s life; they will choose for themselves.
Encouraging them or trying to control them are both harmful.
If you leave them free, they will be able to observe and assess things. They will understand their limitations and how far they should go.
Therefore, don’t guide your children, don’t control them, and don’t set boundaries. Give them freedom. Then they will understand their responsibilities.
If you give them that freedom, after some time, after they talk to each other, they will realise that someone is overreacting. They will understand and disconnect themselves.
