Don’t blindly follow other people’s lives.
Comparing yourself with others destroys your life. Comparing yourself not only with others but also with yourself is also a loss. Earlier I had so much money, and everything was my property; now I have nothing.
That is, if you don’t compare yourself with others, you don’t understand what you are. There is a psychologist who does counselling better than anyone else. He understands that only when you compare yourself with others. You can compare yourself to understand. But we compare ourselves to compete. We compete to be great. Doing so causes some trouble. He has a car and I don’t; he has a double-bedroom flat and I don’t. If I don’t have all these, I will probably lose out in society. We came to this earth not to compete, but to live.
For example, I am going from Pulivendula to Hyderabad in a bus. Is my object to go to Hyderabad or to become a top traveller on the bus I am travelling on?
We are destroying our lives under the illusion that our object is to live and to live a great life.We suffer by comparing what we don’t have to what others have.
What we don’t have to others. At the same time, what I have to offer others may not be there. Some have unique qualities. Some have opportunities.
But what we are doing is imitating them by saying that we are not like them. We are following them.
I am not going to the gym because someone said that I went to the gym. Don’t do that.
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Let me tell you a short story. A man had a horse and a donkey. He put a bag of salt on the horse and a bag of clothes on the donkey. He had to cross a river in between. While crossing that river, what did the horse do? He cleverly dipped the bag of salt in the water several times. Then the weight there decreased. Noticing that, the donkey also dipped his bags of clothes in the water. Now it has become even heavier for the donkey.
Similarly, a woman working in America took a photo of a fridge and shared it. She posted on social media saying, “Look how big a fridge we bought.” Seeing that, her sister-in-law in Hyderabad tortures her husband, saying, “I need such a fridge.” In America, they cook only twice a week and keep it in the fridge to eat. There, they don’t have time because they have two jobs. That’s why they bought a big fridge. They need it. But the same fridge becomes a burden for those here.
Never follow someone’s life. What are our needs? We should consider these things. That’s how we should move forward.
