Don’t make children feel guilty.
Children need to know that they have made a mistake. They need to feel sorry for themselves. They need to admit that they have made a mistake.The parents’ teachers’ belief is that they should not make that mistake again.
These parenting mistakes are the reason why many people have mental problems.
Parents make mistakes without realizing it, either to condition their children or to give them a better life, which pushes them into a sense of guilt.
We watch many motivational speakers in videos. They shout on stage. They emotionally blackmail the children. Your father and mother are struggling like this and that. They emotionally blackmail you by saying that you should study.
Parents also emotionally blackmail you by saying that you are doing wrong.
Even many educated parents do not know the difference between a mistake and a wrong.
What is done intentionally is wrong.
What is done without intention is a mistake. Making mistakes is natural. Everyone makes mistakes.An 8-year-old boy damaged his bicycle while riding it. He made a mistake. But the parents are blaming the boy, saying, “You did wrong.” They are tormenting the boy every day. “You are useless. You are a waste. You don’t even know how to ride a bicycle or take care of it.” The boy is getting scared by his pointing out.
This can increase anxiety in children and lead to anxiety disorders in the future. Or, those children may even get used to telling lies.
Telling children that it was a mistake makes them try to learn. Otherwise, telling them repeatedly that you are doing something wrong creates guilt in them.
They are likely to lie to escape. They are likely to become cunning.
One evening, a mother is teaching her little child. She is saying it loudly. How many times do you not know how to read? She says A is B.
She hits her occasionally. In this situation, does the little child want to learn ABCD or escape from the mother’s aggressive behavior?
She tells the mother that she has a stomachache. She gets out of that situation. Then what did the child learn? ABCD is not mine, but lying.
Generally, there is a misconception that teachers are great people, but a teacher is also just an ordinary person. In this world, no one is great and no one is bad.
And teachers also behave in the same way. A good person is always holding books and reading. A bad person is always playing on the ground.Those sitting in the front bench are good. Those sitting on the back bench are bad.
In general, teachers also teach those in the front bench and ignore those in the back bench.
It’s wrong to play, it’s wrong to get low marks, it’s wrong to speak loudly, and so on. Teachers also create a sense of guilt in children in various ways.
Don’t make children feel guilty.Don’t make children feel guilty.
