How to judge others. They are deceiving themselves.
Everyone thinks that they are lying to others. But they are deceiving themselves.
If you ask them if they are fine, they will say fine. Even if they are not actually fine.
In a traditional family, they ask the elders to bow at their feet. They bless you with blessings like “Kalyana Praptirastu Ashtaishwarya Praptirastu.” On the surface, they bless you like that, but inside, if we get money, they are the ones who are rotten.
They wish you happy birthday. Be happy, but if you are happy, you are rotten.They think they are getting away with such duality without any problems. But conflict arises.
Parents impose discipline when they are young, even if it is not practical. Due to this, they become anxious or cunning. If they have anxiety, they consult a psychologist or a doctor. But if they become cunning, they suffer from intra-individual conflicts.There was a boy who was studying B.Tech second year. He had four backlogs in the first year. When his mother asked him, he lied by saying that he had passed all the subjects. Only his benchmate came to know that four subjects were pending.
One day when he came home, the boy’s mother asked this boy if he had passed. He said no, I had two subjects pending. Now look, she says that our boy has completed everything. There is a possibility that the boy will get angry and tell the truth, or there is a possibility that the boy will demand money or alcohol from this boy for lying.
For that, he will steal money from his father.
Now he is cunning, and when he comes to the final year, there are eight subjects pending. They have to be completed all at once. Otherwise, there is a possibility that the family members will find out. Now the stress has increased even more.There is a girl studying at IIT. Now she is depressed. She studied in corporate schools and colleges since childhood. Her mother used to do teaching and government jobs. Now she is not able to focus properly on teaching.
Because her daughter is depressed. She is also indirectly a reason for her depression. She has heard a lot about soft skills and motivational speakers like the Law of Attraction and Rich Dad Poor Dad. She has read all such crazy books. She is experimenting with all the experiments in them on her daughter.
She told her daughter, who is studying now, to say, “I am fine, I am fine,” and send her a message 6 times a day. Just because you think I am fine does not mean that she is fine. We cannot cheat our brain. By sending such a message, our brain will communicate that I am not fine.There is a woman who hugs her husband and posts photos on Facebook. She always says that there is love between us. There are no fights, and posts photos smilingly.
But she said that her husband is evil and consulted a psychologist. Why do they do this? They suffer from an inferiority complex and post on social media
They are deceiving They are deceiving
They display artificial happiness. This artificial happiness gives you real sadness.There was a motivational speaker who, when asked if he was fine, would say, “I am always fine.” How is it possible to be always fine? There are mental and physical pains. If we say that, we will be inferior.
They also say that if their philosophy does not keep them happy, how can it keep others happy? They say that because of fear.
Because of showing such negative emotions like anger, fear, and pain, this society will not accept me. They will think I am inferior. The job seekers will not give me the job.
There was a girl who studied mechanical engineering. That girl attended the interview. The interviewers asked if she had done project work. That girl did not do project work. Now if that girl lies, they will know. Because they know more than her there, if they ask her questions from there, she might not answer. She told the truth by saying that she didn’t do it. Then they said okay and gave her a task to complete. The girl completed it and got the job. That is the value of honesty in the market.
We lie because of the pain of being rejected.
