Parenting: Initiative vs. Guilt
In parenting we discussed some things. We learned about trust vs. mistrust and autonomy vs. shame. Now after 3 years of the baby’s birth, after they start walking, they observe and try to learn some things. They hold the phone; they hold all the things in the house. They try to learn on their own. Insuative vs. guilt
They hold and test everything. They break them while playing here and there. Then the primary caregiver shouts at the children, saying, “Did you break it?” Then they feel guilty.They take a pen and a pencil and play with them. They get angry at home, wondering if they will break it.
They try to eat their own food. But they say that they can’t eat properly, that they are eating around the plate and throwing it down, and they keep feeding them at home, saying that they don’t know how to eat food, and we will feed them. The children feel guilty there. They say that they can’t do it, that they will make all the mistakes.
Many children actually don’t need school until they are six years old. Now everyone works. They drop their children off at daycare and play schools.
At least one person in the house should take care of them. Be it the father or the mother. But if they drop them off at daycare, there is no way they can take care of them properly. If the mother doesn’t love them, where will the daycare children be loved?Those who work in that day care work for a salary of 5000 or 8000. They have a lot of frustration.
The parents are well-educated; where does the love they have for others come from?
Three- to four-year-old children do not need this day care or schools.
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They should be allowed to play well until they are six years old. Schools are not needed. In government schools or any schools, if they are six years old, they will join them in the first class.
They should be allowed to stay at home until they are six years old. They observe everything very well. They take all the objects and play. They should play well and give them, and they should not react extremely negatively. We should try to explain it to them in a small way. We should explain that if we do this, it will be ruined.Such small children keep asking everything. What is this and what is that. We have to answer very patiently. We have to answer without whining. If we whine, they feel guilty.
They try everything on their own, like dressing, combing their hair, eating rice. We have to encourage them. We should not say that this is wrong and that is right, you can’t do it.
