Causes of mental disorders | Parenting fear absurd

A common mistake that many people make in parenting methods is teaching children #fear and #reverence. Fear and reverence are very old concepts. They may have been suitable for the conditions, culture, and technology of that time. But due to globalization, economic policies, and changes in technology, today’s old methods such as fear and reverence do not work out and give many opposite results. Children who grow up in fear and reverence concepts become extremely liars and have no commitment at all. Or they are more likely to get stuck in serious mental problems like OCD.

Children growing up in this era need to develop an understanding of many things in as little time as possible. Most of them are things that are not related to textbooks. From the technology of the things they use to the media they watch daily, movies, advertisements that come with them, social media, sex, and the way they behave with other people, they need to understand many things through experience. Parents try to explain these things by teaching them, or by using examples and stories. Although these methods are unlikely to be understood in light of today’s circumstances, there are chances that children will try to use them against them at various ages.

Causes of mental disorders;Parenting Psychology

Fear is an emotion. Compared to many other emotions, fear has terrible negative results on a person or an animal. Fear has an effect not only psychologically but also physically. The chemicals produced in the brain of a scared person cause many strong changes in the brain function and the way the body works. That situation is like a vehicle that reaches a high speed and the steering and brakes fail. At that time, the person has no control over either the body or the brain. Once a person is scared, the ability to learn about the subject at that time is almost zero.

But from childhood, parents try to achieve many things by scaring their children by feeding them, scaring them by reading them, scaring them by putting them to sleep. Once parents are scared, they understand what will happen if they eat food whenever they are scared. At least they do not digest it and suffer from many problems like gas. Also, when they are scared, they cannot learn at least one new thing. If there is a big scary event tomorrow, then it is not possible for that person to sleep. It is foolish to think that we should teach our children life lessons by pushing them into such an emotion of fear that has such opposite results. The devotion achieved through fear is nothing more than just acting.

Many people show excessive love and scare them when they do not listen. Some try to make their children listen by buying them their favorite things and gadgets and when they do not listen, they steal them, hide them, keep them with them and blackmail them. This is a very dangerous method. Similarly, when feeding small children, a mother may threaten and scold them, either because she is tired from her household chores, or because she is impatient with her husband or because she is angry with her mother-in-law. We have seen some mothers who put the food they have cooked very deliciously in their children’s mouths and threaten them by saying ‘swallow, swallow’. Those children, out of fear, do not enjoy the taste or swallow the food with tears in their eyes. Even if they forget it after a few minutes and play, such a method remains in their long-term memories and becomes a mental worry after they grow up.

If anyone is still adopting such methods, pay attention immediately. Parenting is not an easy task like raising children. It is not like posting on Facebook. It is not as easy as making TikTok videos. In fact, it is very important and complex. Parents should study and learn many things carefully. They should allocate time for it. It is better to consult experts in the field and take advice as needed. It is important to understand that parenting is not about motivating children or teaching them morals.