How to deal with emotional blackmail.
Who does emotional blackmail on us? Our parents and relatives do it. People who don’t know us cannot do emotional blackmail.
There is an emotional bond. Blackmailing that you won’t get me, that you won’t get my help. We form an emotional bond with those with whom we have love. Naturally, this is between parents, between children, between siblings, and between husband and wife. Sometimes an emotional bond is also formed between friends.
Young children do emotional blackmail. I won’t eat, I won’t study, I will leave home, and I will commit suicide and die.
Why do they do emotional blackmail? That is, they are trying to get what they don’t deserve.Children ask if they want chocolate. Parents don’t buy it, they cry, and then let’s say we buy it. What did they learn then? They learned that if they cry, they will buy it. If I cry, they give it. They learned that if you do emotional blackmail, you will get a workout.
Parents also do emotional blackmail. If you don’t listen to me, you will not have my support. This is more like emotional blackmail by mothers. Why do they do this emotionally, fearing that their children will go astray?
They don’t have confidence in their children.When you say no to something, don’t give it to them no matter what. If you give it to them, give it to them before they cry.
If you give it to them when they cry, saying, “What if they cry? You’re the only son,” they learn emotional blackmail. Next time, emotional blackmail will increase even more.
Parents also do emotional blackmail. If you drink alcohol, you won’t get my support; a father threatens you to drink drugs, thinking your father is dead.
We should explain that matter; we should explain to them from a young age how much damage is done by doing that.
Children become more interested in things that we say no to. We can’t stop children; they learn emotional blackmail.
A nine-year-old child became very addicted to screens. Then they told that child at school that if they look at their mobile, their eyes will go blind, and if they look at their crow’s eyes, they will go high. The child lowered the screen, but she is afraid to go to school.
So trying to control them through fear will only lead to further damage.
