How to judge others.
To judge others, we must first know ourselves completely.
In this natural context, everyone is equal. Everyone started from the same place. That is, when we came out of the mother’s womb, we were all equal. But later, due to circumstances, every individual is unique.
To understand others, we must first understand ourselves. What I am like, persona means mask. In the environment where I grew up, a mask was created for me. Here, I mean who I am. Every person has this mask. Society has made it necessary to wear this mask.
So if I have a mask, then the other person also has a mask. We need to understand the person inside that mask.This society teaches us morals from the age of five or six. You should be like this; you should be like this.
Prophet Muhammad, Jesus, and Swami Vivekananda are like this; this society keeps telling you that you should be like this. The kid who thinks that it should be like this starts trying to be like that. After starting, a conflict comes. Dad says don’t lie. But when the debt collectors come, they teach us to lie and say that Dad is not there.
What is said on the surface is one thing, and there is another inside.Let me give you an example. In a movie, girls talk about the rapes they face. But in the same movie, there are songs where they show their skin. What is said on the surface is morality, but inside, they are making and selling a movie that satisfies the inner animal of a person.
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We have a mask, and others also have one. So don’t accept what others say as it is. The reason for this mask is society. If there is no mask, this society will not accept it. Depending on how much that mask is, the conflict will increase.
When someone comes, we say hello, are you fine? Even if we are not actually fine,
In some situations, if we get angry, we say, “I am not angry.” Because we project that I am strong. Because we put on a mask so that we may attack weakness.
We smile constantly as if we are happy. But behind that smile there is also pain. It is not possible to be happy continuously. Americans, even those who have a lot of money, are not happy continuously; it is not possible.
Laughing too much, saying that we are happy too much, and getting angry too much—all these come from fear.Where did the middle-class people come from to have such grand functions and wear expensive clothes? It came from a pain, from the inferior. I am not saying that doing this is wrong or right.
From this inferiority complex comes the behavior that we are doing excessively.
Many people say that they have conquered anger and fear. They are all masks.
A person gets angry and afraid of anyone.But we need to know what is inside this mask.
How to judge others.How to judge others.
Words may lie, but this body does not. We need to know how words and actions are related.A boy says “I love you” to a girl. He just says “I love you” in words, but we can know from his behavior whether he cares for that girl or how committed he is. A girl asks a boy in a wedding dress, “How many relationships do you have?” The boy can answer that question by saying that he doesn’t have any. So we shouldn’t know the answer by asking; we should understand the mask. You should make them talk; they can always tell about it in those words. You can give masked answers to the questions asked to you, but the behavior is like what is inside the mask.
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