Parenting tips.Trust vs mistrust
So far we have learned about the care of a child in a physical way. Now after delivery, trust vs. mistrust for a period of one year. This is very important.
Why is this important? For example, you got a job. You are from Hyderabad, but you got a job in Vizag. When you go there, some people cheat you. Then an opinion is formed that Vizag means cheating.You have come to Hyderabad again for a job. There is a person from Vizag as a colleague. Then when you see him, you feel a sense of mistrust.
When you are in the mother’s womb, there is no need to do a job. There is no need to take food either. Everything is provided to us. One fine day we came out.
Now I have taken oxygen. Metabolism has happened, and hunger has arisen. A nibble has been put in my mouth. When I sucked it, milk came out. I drank it, and my hunger has been satisfied.
A woman came and took care of me. Whenever she touched me, I felt a positive emotion.
Another day I cried. She was not with me. Another woman, an old woman, came to me. She had a different smell. It was a bit scary to see her.I don’t want this old woman; I need her. She will come sometime.
Now when it comes to whether to believe it or not, a mistrust is created.
I want her breastfeeding. I need care; I need attention.
But she is always available only 2 days a week. She comes on Friday evening and takes good care of me only for those two days.
Then suddenly on Monday she disappears. Now how can I have a trust? A mistrust has been created.Mistrust remains the same. It remains the same even after growing up.
We have paid so much attention to such things and educated them. Still, we say that they are living without courage.
So first of all, the biological mother is the most necessary.
If there is something more important to you than children, don’t have children. You want to go to America and get a job. If these are important, don’t have children.
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Many people say that it is women’s empowerment. The first important thing is your child. Otherwise, if you say that you have to earn money and work hard, it will be you, but you don’t have the ATM card; your husband does.Here, not only the mother but also the rest of the family members should support the mother. Only then will the mother play her role. Then the children will be very confident.
So, do not torture the biological mother by saying that you should do your job and pay the EMI.
